If they don’t come in time, be certain that they will come regardless. It was my birthday on the 29th of January and as tradition that I have performed for the past two years, I pick something that I will religiously commit to sharing about and share honestly.
The year 2020 presented countless opportunities for me to grow as an individual as well as learn and I wanted to highlight on those lessons and see how they can impact people that view them so here we go!
Be grateful always, it is easy to focus on all the horrible things that happen or the problems that consume us. Once a week just being grateful for health or breath goes a long way.
2. Ask and you’ll receive
There’s a lot of fear that came with asking. The biggest was rejection. I’ve asked my way into many things this year. I got no’s and so many yes’s too! Needs won’t be met because they’re not known.
3. Let it go
I don’t share a lot. I hoard in a lot of feelings and the thing with piling emotions up is that they will always come back to claim their space. 2020 had me letting it go. If it is not going to change. I can’t let it consume me.
4. It is okay to address your emotions.
I’m usually running from them. Learning to decipher why I’m feeling what I’m feeling and how to get past it with healthier coping mechanism has been so important for me.
5. Say it
If you know, you’ll know I have a mouth on me. I’ll say it regardless of how it will make you feel. If you upset me you’ll know. This just help people learn to respect me because I’ll let you know when you’ve crossed the line.
6. Love people from a distance.
It is okay to let people run their course in your life. It’s okay to lose close proximity to people. You can wish them well and care for them from a distance.
7. Own the spaces you are in. I
I understood this more than I practiced it and for the last year, it’s really all I’ve been doing. I am deserving and worthy also I’ve worked really hard and I won’t be polite about it.
8. Deal with it
One of the most difficult days was when I had to follow through with tasks and my body shut down. There was so much pain emotionally an my body wouldn’t let me do a thing. So this is the year of dealing with it.
9. You’re paying more in the long run
I am an addictive buyer but learning that quality over quantity was so important. Especially when it comes to things that I need to be durable, just a tip.
10. Filter your expectations
I have high expectations of myself, others, my work. This broke my heart when they were never met. So last year was about hoping for the best and expecting the worst then realigning myself.
11. “We move regardless.”
Learning to move regardless. Making a new path when things don’t work. Making peace with failed attempts.
12. Be persistent
It’s so easy to give up. It’s so easy to normalize situation because there’s no hope for change.
13. Be at peace with what you can’t change
Literally got this as soon as they switched off the internet. I had so much work pending but couldn’t do a thing to change the situation. Letting things I can’t control go has given me peace.
14. Adjust to the situation
If there was one thing 2020 taught us, it was the unexpected will happen and everything you had planned will shift. So rearrange yourself to that.
This was such a hard lesson. I like to hold my grudges and I won’t be convinced otherwise but sometimes it’s really to your benefit to forgive.
16. Imagine the world doesn’t revolve around you.
Another hard one but as the experiences grow, so does this fact. You’re not the center of the world. As soon as I understood this, my heart stopped paining a lot.
17. Be mindful with your words.
I know how words hurt me but I still used to speak fwaa, disregarding what those words might mean to others. A friend told me how hurtful I was to them and how happy they were that I’d grown from that person. Eye opening!
18. Someone is ALWAYS watching.
Fair enough, I’m out there but someone is always watching. Use that information as you please, I’ll be using it to make some more money this year.
19. Share your knowledge
Share, share, share! I love to learn and finding new ways to share what I learn with as many people as I can gives me joy.
20. Break it down
I tend to take on A LOT. I’m 90% always complaining about how much work I have. Finding my work pace has been so vital for my productivity. Take it all in small pieces.
21. Listen to your instincts
I’m a very intuitive person. My soul will feel it before I see it. Sometimes I ignore this and only have myself to tell me “I TOLD YOU SO.” Your gut probably knows better.
22. Introduce yourself from luxury
The kind of money I intend to make and life I’d like to live isEXPENSIVE, it is only right that I start normalizing it. I don’t approach things with “that’s expensive.” It’s a “I want that for me, what do I need to do?”
23. Choose what matters
I’m a very emotional person so getting into my feelings is very east. I’ve had to make the choice between what matters enough, what will change and what I’ll fuss over for an hour and let go.
24. Give without expectations
I love to gift my friends and I’ll never gift with the expectation that you must do it back. Obviously as someone that loves gifts, I had to learn this. I’m personally so pressed by people who say “you didn’t so I can?”pls, are we 5?
25. Invest in yourself
For the people that make a brand out of their personalities, spend money on yourself because it’ll make you more. I hate to say it but the impression matters in the industry.
26. Choose Peace
I am a very verbally violent person and for the last year, I was in positions where I needed to be tolerant or choose peace and discern what needed my input and what I could let slide. It’s a battle.
27. Use your privilege
A lot of people like to run away from the fact that they have access to certain things because humility. I understand this but it is not getting you anywhere. If you can get into a room, sell yourself to the highest bidder.
28. Use your network
I built Oboniire purely on the assumption that my friends will support me. That support differed from not only purchasing but spreading the message. How can you make money from the people that you know? You can’t be a Kampala mayor and not make money.
Wahala no dey finish! Enjoy every milestone, enjoy your people, enjoy love just bask in all the happiness that comes your way.